Before I had kids I thought I wasn’t a baby person
Monday, 21 November 2011 
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Before I had kids I was convinced that I wasn’t a baby person – I never had the urge to hold other people’s babies and the one time I had to babysit an infant I was totally stressed out the whole time. Older children were always a bit more fun and relaxing to be around.
Now that I have kids of my own I can say that I’m still not a baby person :)
I enjoyed having babies (because they were MINE), but I’m enjoying my kids so much more now that they’re both in a decent age.
Oskar, of course, is a total joy. Most of the time he’s very sensible and doesn’t rebel or argue. I love chatting to him about Important Stuff – lately that’s included a discussion on drugs and on how babies grow in mommies’ tummies. I love sharing information with him and knowing that his little brain will retain part of that information forever.
Oliver is still going through a very clingy phase, but if that is his version of the terrible-twos/threes then I can handle it. Other than that, he’s a certified Big Boy – he’s been toilet trained for almost 18 months now and can finally even get his own pants down; soon he’ll be able to wipe his bum as well and then I won’t know what to do with all my free time :) He loves to play with Oskar’s Lego and when Oskar is drawing or doing homework, he also draws or “writes”.
It’s awesome. Two kids sitting down at a table drawing. It’s so nice not have to change anyone’s nappies or to have to wipe someone’s face (and furniture) clean from mashed somethingorother and in general not having someone who needs hands on attention 110% of the time.
I’m starting to feel free and normal, and I cannot understand how some people LOVE babies – babies are so exhausting and they can’t tell you funny stories and write/draw you rainbows and love notes :)
Red, orange, yellow, green, followed by blue...
Practicing his writing
Letter O is his favorite...
... it gets written in the corner of every picture to stand for "Oliver"
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Before i had kids i wasn’t a baby person either…I have to say that I enjoy the fact that I can have a conversation with them now…
Me too, exactly the same and when I was pregnant with my 2nd I was dreading it, my daughter was 23months when he was born, she was chatty, understood things, been out of nappies for 6 months, fed herself, walked etc etc etc – I kept saying this new baby is going to be soooooo boring… funny how children change us to people we would not necessarily recognise ..
Me three! I’d never even held a baby before my own, partly because I wasn’t that bothered. Little Planet is still in the “difficult threes” but the tantrums are getting less and I can see how funny, interesting and insightful she is. Can’t wait till she starts primary school next year.
I think some people love babies because they are so dependent on them. They love that there is someone in their world who will never leave them and who needs them to survive. I’m not saying it’s necessarily healthy or right, but it’s the way it is.
Me… four?:) have always known that I’m not a baby person and although I love my kid to death every day I see that she’s more of a person and I love her more every day just for that.
You are right about the sense of freedom that comes when babies are no longer totally dependent on you. When I arrived home with baby #1 I cried for 3 hours straight because it dawned on me that this ‘thing’ was totally reliant on me for everything! Freaked me out because I somehow overlooked that obvious point for the previous 9 months!
I’m glad to read that there are so many other non-baby people out there :) (and I love seeing my new CommentLuv thingamajig in action)
Interesting. I am very mumch a non-baby and non-child person. I love my own, of course, and always will. I’ll even talk about them all day if anyone lets me. But I find it very hard to be interested in other people’s. And I don’t find (most) new-borns cute. I said that once on-line and was flamed.
With mine I am really enjoying the baby phase – just don’t ask me to look after anyone else’s :)
I just looked at my first born’s newborn photos and thought “my god, he was ugly!” :) THEN, of course, I thought he was the cutest thing :D
Mis asja! Oliver istub nii laua taga ja kirjutab tähti või!?!?!
Geenius!
No Oskar ju teeb ka seal laua taga oma kodutoid ja nii see vaiksem teebki jarele :)
Awwww what a gorgeous little man.
I am too much of a baby person, I love newborns, and little babies… Toddlers to the age of 3 I can pretty much say “NOOOOOOOO” Give them back to me when they are 6 or 7 :p
I have 6 of the little darlings myself, mine are 12, 10, 6, 4, 2 & 6 months
6 kids. Wow. I have no other words :)
I didn’t mind babies. Being the eldest of several grandchildren, I was brought up babyitting them! Having said that, it was great to get out of the knackering baby stage; especially when you no longer have to wipe their bottoms and help them dress. Imagine my despair when I discovered I was pregnant and my older two were 7 and 10! (It wasn’t as bad as I’d expected though. )
Oh ou sound so much like my hubby. I do love babies! And want another one soon! But I really understand what you saying too. I am looking forward to a time when I can just chat with my daughter. X
I’m quite the same. I never knew what to do with my little nieces and nephews when I had to babysit them. I just put them on the bed and laid down with them and started talking silly. And I still don’t know how to talk with my cousins who are teenagers now, hahaa :D It seems like I don’t even remember what it was like being one and I’m not even that old yet! :D
And it gets even worse – you know these monthly birthdays that parents celebrate every month for the first year of the baby? I never get those. I mean I do, because they want to celebrate and a babies make progress EVERY DAY (unlike adults:P) and the first year is important, and I’m sure I’ll bake 12 cakes per year with my first child too, but but but :) I must be dead inside!!!!???
I never did the monthly birthdays. I tried to take photos every month on their “birthday” but that project always sort of fell by the wayside after a few months :|
As for talking to kids – I tend to talk to kids in grown up language from the start (not using the longest and most complicated words of course) and I have a total ALLERGY against using baby words i.e. in Estonian: kätu, papu, musi (suu asemel), mämm, etc. :|
When I was pregnant and my oldest kid was 1 year and something, we had friends over with a 9 month-old baby. I swear I didn’t know what to do with her. She was so small and fussy and you couldn’t understand nothing what she wanted or said.
I think once my youngest (who is 7 months now) will be a bit older, I will stop being a baby-person again. But not newborns. They eat and sleep and look cute :)
I love taking photos of babies, though :) I do the shots and then it’s over and I go home.
I never had newborns that just ate and slept. I specialise in making babies that are fussy from day 1 :)